For You

  • you are seeking a place to authentically explore your identity;

    you would like to improve the quality of your relationships with yourself and others;

    you are ready to explore past experiences that may be contributing to your present challenges;

    you hold marginalized identities or engage in work or play that is stigmatized, and you would like to be able to bring your full self to the therapeutic space;

    you often feel like you “don’t belong” or that you have difficulty connecting with others who share your values, interests, or identities;

    you are an activist or community organizer seeking support as you pursue social change.

  • individual therapy focused on helping you heal from the past, create the relationships you want in your life, and find the most authentic version of yourself. You may be exploring your identity, coming home to yourself after a traumatic experience, or breaking patterns that no longer serve you. We will explore your values, history, relationships, and identity in ways that feel affirming and sustaining.

For Your Relationship

  • you are facing a decision or life transition that may affect your partnership, and you would like to navigate this change with some outside guidance;

    you are exploring opening your relationship or would like to navigate something that has come up in your already non-monogamous relationship;

    you are exploring BDSM and kink, including D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationship dynamics.

  • relationship therapy for couples, triads, polycules, and other relationship structures to develop positive communication and relationship norms, find common ground, and increase intimacy and connection. This may include addressing sexual concerns, creating relationship agreements, and engaging in experiential and educational activities. Kink-affirming and informed, polyamory/non-monogamy informed and friendly.

For Your Teen

  • your teen enjoys creative activities, such as arts and crafts or music;

    they identify as LGBTQIA+;

    they identify as neurodivergent (i.e., have a formal or informal diagnosis of ADHD or Autism/ASD);

    you experience them as “defiant” (i.e., they sometimes seem to be resistant to your leadership as a parent, or have traits that are oriented toward independence and autonomy).

  • a space for your teen to feel seen and heard, where they learn to talk more openly about their feelings and experiences and in turn have greater resilience and zest for life. Parents are included in the therapy as appropriate to support your child while maintaining their privacy and confidentiality. Trans, nonbinary, gender-questioning, and creative teens welcomed in this office!

For Your Family

  • you or your family members identify as LGBTQIA+;

    you have a nontraditional family structure (such as blended families, separated parents, or families with mixed neurotypes);

    you feel that there are positive connections of love and care in your family relationships, but that you lack certain knowledge or skills to appropriately communicate or engage with one another;

    you have a child who is gender non-conforming, trans, or gender-creative and you would like to learn more about how to support them.

  • queer and neurodiversity-affirming family therapy focused on improving communication, identifying sources of conflict, and offering pathways to even more loving relationships. This may include facilitating dialogue between family members, engaging in experiential activities to increase connection, and taking a big picture look at the dynamics that shape your family’s interactions.

I also offer…

Gender-Affirming Medical Care letters of support

I am certified to provide letters of support for gender-affirming care, and will do so at no cost (pro bono). Individuals who have the means are welcomed to pay a sliding scale fee that is reasonable for them. These letters may be requested by your medical provider or insurance company to document readiness for surgery or access financial coverage for gender-affirming care. Please reach out to me directly at kitt@defianttherapy.com to schedule.

Groups

Occasionally, I will offer support groups or therapy process groups through my practice. A group that was recently offered is “Gender Creatives,” in which adult participants use artistic projects to explore their gender identity, which may be offered again in the future.

Current group offerings:

  • The Chrysalis, a free support group for trans, nonbinary, and genderqueer adults!

  • Gender Creatives, a paid group where participants use therapeutic arts to explore their relationship to personal gender identity and expression; transgender, nonbinary, genderqueer, gender-nonconforming, cisgender, and questioning folx welcome!

Short-Term Therapy

If you are interested in brief, focused therapy to address a specific problem or concern, I may be able to provide short-term educational and solution-focused counseling. Please reach out to me directly at kitt@defianttherapy.com to inquire!

Specific concerns for short-term therapy may include:

  • Questions about transgender issues and care

  • Parenting concerns

  • Questions about sex and sexuality, or navigating issues that arose in a specific sexual encounter or kink scene

  • Navigating a reproductive choice, by yourself or with a partner